Write out the names and addresses of all your guests. Before you put pen to expensive but pretty paper, do a headcount. Take the time to check over this information so you don’t make any spelling errors that might bother you when you’ve got plenty of other planning to worry about.
As you go along, you’ll be able to figure out who gets invited together and who gets invited separately.
Invite families and couples together. Any couple, married and unmarried, can be placed on the same envelope, as long as you wish to invite both of them. If you try to get out of inviting your friend’s new partner you’re iffy about, you might have an awkward moment on your hands. Children under 18 can also be addressed on the same invitation as their parents.
- For children over 18, it’s usually best to send a separate invitation. If they live with their parents, you can get away with including them all on the same invitation.
- Similarly, siblings or other people living together but not in a relationship can be invited together. However, you might find separate invitations to be a more thoughtful gesture. This is up to you.
Invite single guests separately. Individual invitations are for your guests that aren’t covered on any other invitations. These are for people neither in a relationship nor living together with another guest. You may also choose to invite one person in a couple or household, but be prepared for any drama that might arise from those who feel left out. Single invitees can also be given a guest option to make up for this.
The guest option is used to invite someone you don’t know well, such as the new partner your friend is seeing.
Assign appropriate titles to your guests. Noting a guest’s professional titles, such as for doctors, military officials, and judges, is a respectful, classy touch. When these aren’t relevant, you’ll need to address people by Mr. and Mrs. Mr. is used for any males age 18 or older. Mrs. is used for married women or divorced and widowed women. Miss is used for single women and girls under 18. It’s a little complicated, so taking care of this before you start writing can be a great relief.
- Ms. is a catch-all address. It works well for unmarried women over 30 and anytime you’re unsure about what title to use.
- For medical doctors, you must spell out the word doctor. Other doctors get the abbreviation “Dr.,” which replaces Mr. and other prefixes.
- Refer to judges like “The Honorable Renley Baratheon” and military personnel like “Lieutenant Loras Tyrell, US Army.”